When I first read my mom’s text, my stomach dropped. She said she’d “worked her whole life to give me everything I needed” and now it was her time. I wanted to scream—if I had everything I needed, why was I drowning in debt with rent due and bills piling up?
Frustration flared, but I stopped myself from firing back over text. This needed a real conversation. I called her. She answered warmly, but I skipped the small talk. “I’m drowning here, and you’re out there living like a queen,” I said.
She was calm. “I do get it. But I spent decades worrying about bills and putting my dreams on hold for you. This is my time now.” Her words stung. When I explained I needed help with rent and debt, she sighed. “I love you, but handing you money won’t fix this. You need to understand how you got here.”
“So it’s my fault?” I asked. “No,” she said gently, “but it’s your responsibility.” She reminded me I had a good job and asked if I’d tracked my spending. I hadn’t. My “plan” was swiping my card and hoping.